First of all ,let me tell you how I came to be on this forum. Since learning a few things about CPS I have done some searches on the internet about adoption and what people think about foster care , on both sides of an issue I have with it.
I was surprised to see there are JW's who are for adoption. I can see how you would want to "save" a child ,so to speak. I consider myself a witness even though I am not baptized. I have not done anything "wrong" to prevent a baptism, I have just been struggling with faith because there are so many JW's that seem to be to "worldly" in my personal opinion and it seems hard for ME to find people (to associate with or make friends with) who I think really care about what is the truth and what is really right versus wrong.
One thing I kept in mind when deciding to start studying the bible with a witness (I was raised with one parent in the truth,but she didn't really teach me anything, so I had to learn everything from scratch as an adult)
I used to want to be a foster parent. I changed my mind when I found out how corrupt the system(gov) really is just this past year, even when it comes to CPS(child protection) . I do understand there are children who come from abused homes or parents that did drugs. As long as there was no REAL physical abuse or neglect(sadly abuse nowadays can be anything from being poor to spanking , or even yelling at your kids ) , I personally feel NO CHILD should be separated from their loving homes. I seriously doubt there a family who has no relatives what so ever that could have taken the child, instead of the child go into foster care. I DO understand most of these people have GOOD (intentions) in trying to save abused kids. Ever heard of the saying the road to hell is paved with good intentions? (its just a saying,but proves a point ,I know there's no firey hell) However PLEASE know that there are MANY MANY families that are torn apart by CPS for doing NOTHING wrong !
These children get taken away and put into foster care, or even taken away forever to be adopted out because some one in the community made a anonymous (FALSE) allegation. If they are already poor and can't afford those "services" but make too much to qualify for assistance,etc..etc.. job loss,etc.. it's harder to fight cps and/or do what CPS wants. A lot of times , they will treat you like your guilty until proven innocent,but guess what? You won't be allowed to prove your innocence. You will be made to take parenting classes (depsite already knowing more than most parents on how to love & raise a child properly) and/or drug tests (that are sometimes a false posative. JUST to show them "ok,these parents are not abusing the kids" (yet on their paperwork it says otherwise ) ,and after 6months or so they finally get to come back home to your loving arms. I have tried educating others on this and those who remain brainwashed will say things like, " Your nuts/crazy" " If the allegations weren't serious they wouldn't have been taken" Or they must have done something." This one takes the cake
If they weren't so overly zealous,then they wouldn't find the ones really abuse " I say if they weren't waisting their time with innocent loving parents,they would have MORE time for the ones needing saving. It doesn't matter what the parents did or didn't do (as long as there was no PROOF of PHYSICAL abuse), they are still allegations(meaning HEARSAY ) ,and no child should be torn from there parents. Look on Youtube and other sites type in CPS. See all those parents who love their kids and are wishing to find them one day because they were un justy taken away . You JW's know this system is corrupt,please consider the fact that CPS is corrupt too. You may have been told your adopted child was abused, but you don't know if that is ever really true,or that the birth parent loves them and wants them to come home. I do not curse,do not do drugs,don't drink or smoke... Have no criminal record and have never abused a child. Guess what, some one (I think I know who it is) out of spite or because they didn't know me very well,and thought they were "helping" made an anonymous call. Everytime I tell people I get flamed ,yelled at (on the internet) basicly I am hated . Do you know how ambarrasing it is to have to tell people this,because you are innocent and did nothing wrong?? Im too scared to tell fellow wittness because what if it makes them think I am a bad parents and not want me to watch their kids?? I know I did nothing wron,like someone who gets put in jail for something they did not do
People judging me and thinking I HAD to have done something *NOPE*.
I know the process they went through for taking my kids was UNJUST and WRONG and we ,nor my kids deserved it. Yeah,I have them back,but they are scarred and My oldest is one grade level behind in school because he had to live somewhere else and the other person wasn't prepared to know how to teach him and what his needs are. He was making A's and B's and when he came back home,he was maknig all F's and I have to deal with the pain from remembering what they did to us,and the pain from knowing other families arn't so lucky . I used to think I could forgive anyone of anything. I have to struggle to pray and ask to not feel so much hate in my heart twards the people who did this.
If you think I am lying or this cannot be true, than I don't know what else to say. I know I am speaking the truth. For all you know I could be someone who doesn't really love Jehovah and is trying to lie to you. If anyone wants the urls to some websites that educate on the corruption of CPS, Let me know,but please don't flame me from trying to educate. I said I know there are kids who do need to be taken away(although not as much as the public thinks). But no family should be ripped a apart like this. I do not beleive in adoption anymore either. What if I gave my oldest child up when I got pregnant with him at 19? (I wasn't a witness back then). I thought about it,but because I did know a little about the truth/bible I felt i would be murdering my child ,because what if he ended up being adopted by a non witness family who would end up not making it in the end of the system of things. I felt that alothugh that would be giving him a chance, it would still be the same as if i had gotten an abortion,so i kept him so I could teach him about Jehovah IF I decided I wanted to start studying,and 6yrs later I did decide to start studying.
Now I probably can never adopt or foster a child myself(not that I want to anymore) ,maybe not even have a home daycare. I have always wanted a home daycare. I know my family and god comes first,but those were dreams I had for what type of jobs I wanted,working with children because I love kids. now all that is gone, because of one anonymous caller,and the corrupt cps and corrupt gov
If you want to adopt, do it international, and then still make sure the agency is legit. Some agencies lie to the Birth parents to take the babies. Did you know there was a awake magazine promoting adoption to unwed mothers . I wonder if the Watchtower society would feel the same about that now. I wonder if they thought about those babies dying when the end comes,if they got adopted by parents who do not love Jehovah. I really do want to know.
Every time I try to talk to a witness about personal matters they don't talk to me,just AT me and it only seems like they are trying to get "time" for their time sheets when they call on me to come back to the meetings. I todl them I don't need these mags, I need the current watchtower for this sunday ,because it would be nice to have one,instead of ask for one AFTER we get there.This isn't about me, sorry getting off track...
I have slowed down on the meetings only because of being depressed over what happend last year, and I am going whenever I have the strength,by the way. It's just very hard because it feels like no one understands or cares,or but just a few people . I jsut want you al lto know i am not a bad person, I just want everyone to be educated. When you go door to door,isn't that your intention? To tell peopel the turth. I feel people need to know the truth about CPS. But I have stopped talking about it, on other forums (besides ineedto cut down on being on the computer
) because it what it really comes down is a polical issue and I know not to get into political affairs because this gov is only temporary anyway. I still feel the need to tell people occasioanly,and since I accidentaly came across this forum I thought I'd see if there was really Jw's who were fostering and adopting,and so I couldn't help but to try and inform you because I love children and it and feel it is wrong to be a part of ripping a part families,children who belong with their birth parents who DO want them and CPS takes them away when they were never in any danger. I feel sad that there are JW's that are apart of this .