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The above posters give good advice. I am very impressed that you are thinking about your sister's welfare in this and are aware of her possible needs. You must love her very much.
I would just quibble with one thing. No, I wouldn't mention the visits to your family unless asked--that I agree. If asked, I would be honest and say I have visits. I would not offer an explanation of why I do and they don't, though; that just opens the door to an argument you can't win because you would be speaking for someone else. My tactic in those situations is to always say, "It was not my decision and I can't speak for so and so." I work REALLY hard to not get into whether or not I agree with the decision or the possible reasons for it. I think the other party will already know the reasons and, if she doesn't, she will never "get" it, anyway.
When you call, I think if ask about your sister's needs in the situation and show that you are respectful and understanding of that, it will help to build trust and make things far less awkward even if now is not a good time for contact. If directly asked for an explanation, her parents may well feel pressured or challenged to a potentially hostile argument. If you frame the conversation around your sister's needs, then you will become their ally, not their adversary.
Good luck and blessings. If your sister is ready for it, it will be a wonderful thing for her heart and self esteem to know you and have a relationship with you.
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