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"Peregrinerose" - you are so right. If you don't keep a sense of humor thru adoption, you will crash and burn.
And I agree with all of you. No child should be lingering in foster care without a significant person in their life to guide them thru. The best place for a child is with bio family, certainly, but that just isn't the reality.
So the reality is that there are those families who CAN adopt older children and be successful. I wish we had been one of them. For us, children under 2 have best fit into our family and we into their lives.
Love was supposed to be enough . . . it's not in the case of these children grieving for what they can't have and they will take their losses out on you.
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Josie
Mom to 8 EXTRAordinary little kids and big kids.
4 by birth, 4 by adoption -- how LUCKY am I????
"You must BE the change you want to see in the world."
M.K. Gahndi
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