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Some ideas that came to my head are...
1. Use the choice language... for example.. you choose to not make your bed so you are choosing to stay inside today....
2. There was a foster parent that came to one of our pride classes.. they strictly worked with teenagers and pre-teens. They had a chore routine that every child was expected to participate in. If a child were to break a rule they would add more chores to their set of cards. They stated that it took all the arguments out of the picture because the assignments were there. The stated that the extra chores were just things that normally would be done like at spring cleaning.. example dust the baseboards, clean out the game closet and put everything back neatly...
Also if it is possible do a lot of activities that would help bond her to your family. Express sympathy to her situation and allow her to express her anger to you. Open the lines of communication...
I hope that this helps you..
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