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My sweet son found me in December, 2007. After a whirlwind 10 months, he completely pulled back. He actively tried to make my life miserable. We did not speak for 4 months, but we have now rebuilt our relationship and it is stronger than ever. At one time I thought we would never have a relationship but now I realize he was scared, and he had alot of his own issues to deal with as much as I had mine. Our reunion was very typical but when you are going through it, you feel as a birthmother that you have done something wrong, that your child doesn't really love you, and all your unresolved issues from the adoption are brought to the surface. I gave him his space and amazingly enough he called me, told me how much he missed me, and we have been in a new phase of our reunion ever since. This time, things do not feel so desperate, they are as close to normal as they can get, and we are now a part of each other's lives. All I can say is from my experience, the pull back phase is normal but super difficult. My heart has broken a million times during our reunion but one thing I learned is to be open and honest with him about everything and somehow it all works out.
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