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This is a question I have thought about. I am an amom in am open adoption, and my husband and I know we won't be adopting again (due to our ages--early 40's now). Our son is only 2 and a half. his bmom is 20 and we believe (and hope) she will go on to have more children and parent them when she gets older. She is going to be an awesome mom when that day comes. On one hand, that is very exciting because it will be a chance for him to be a big brother. But of course he will still be an only child in terms of how he is being raised. His bmom is currently in a new relationship with a guy and they are head over heels for one another and talking about getting married in a few years. I just wonder how the whole dynamic will change, how DS will feel about her parenting a sibling and how she will feel when she is parenting a child knowing all she missed with DS (not that she doesn't know now...but it will add another layer when she is going through all the firsts with another child).
I wish you the very best. It sounds like you are a really thoughtful person and I am glad your bson has you to help him navigate through these emotions. And congrats on your new baby!
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