[Roosmama]

How do you handle bio parent requests for "alone time" with your son/daughter? I understand the need from the bio parents point of view, but I'm really struggling with the idea for a number of reasons.

DS is only 3, and his bio mom originally asked about having him stay at her house for a sleepover. I'm not even ready for that discussion yet, and frankly I don't think it will ever be an option. But then she followed up by saying she really just wants some alone time with him. What do I do - drop him off for an hour while I go hang out somewhere nearby? I'm just really struggling with the idea. I'd love to hear from others who have experienced this. I want DS to get to know his bio mom, but I think he can do this with me nearby until he's older, KWIM? Our agreement was to get together once a year, and we've already gone beyond that (we try to get together 3-4x/yr).

My goal with our OA was to view the bio family as part of our extended family, but we're not quite there yet. Everything still feels very forced, very much a matter of obligation. I think that's a big part of it. But age is also a big factor. I don't want DS to get confused and think we're giving him back to his bio mom. Any advice?