[jp4ga]

We are just now finding out about the Bdad of our adopted daughter. The bmom did not fill out any information on the forms from the adoption agency so we know nothing about medical or family history. When we asked about him she said he was not in the picture.

9 months later.... I contact him on my own using his first and last name and bday for searching. I tell him that I know he does not want to be involved with DD, but could he please fill out a medical form concerning his family history so that our DD can receive proper medical care. HE CRIED. He very much wants to be involved, he wants updates, pictures and wants to see her in person. He said he felt forced into adoption by the bmom, but he knew he could not raise the baby on his own so he did sign. Through this conversation I also found out that my DD has a FULL bio brother. We now have contact every few weeks.

Prior to the adoption the bmom made the bdad sound like a abusive looser. From what we can tell most of what she told us was not the truth. The bdad and the bmom only see each other once in a while when arranging visits for the other child they have together.

We have a better relationship with the bdad than we do with the bmom. He seems to be really caring. He was just too young 21 to take on the responsibiltiy of another child.