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I didn't want to involve the birthfather at all. Technically, it was a miracle I got pregnant by him at all!
I did inform him though, as I was told my son would be in foster care a much shorter time if he signed off as well.
So, his reaction 'why didn't you get an abortion?'
I'm also certain he thinks the child isn't his (the technicalities I'm referring to).
His parents assumed I was wanting money.
Not a good experiance for me to be honest!
I don't know if he thinks of his son at all. I seriously wonder if he thinks that I used his name but that he isn't really the father and so he's probably forgotten about it. I also wonder if my son finds him, if he would ask for a dna test.
Thing is, I've blacked out his last name, I got rid of any letters and photos years ago. I made contact with a mutual friend from that time, but that friend (after an initial 'sure I'll help you out) refuses to answer any of my emails. I would think that the friend would have wanted to know if it had been his child...as I know he's a dad himself now.
*sigh*
I guess it's hard, I wish that this friend would help out because I'd love to give the birthdad a chance to get to know his son, and I know that his son would like to know a bit more about him...
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