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Old 05-27-2009, 12:46 PM
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I was also wondering if you were talking international or domestic. Internationally, they don't 'like' any form of mental illness. However, there are ways to discuss things with your doc and have the paperwork reflect where you really are (controlled with medication). Since you've been reading - I can tell that you know what type of issues are possible with older child adoption...do lots of reading and soul searching for what you can handle. Honestly, I think the bigger issue than your step son's adjustment will be the adoptive son's adjustment when step son is around. That can be a big jealousy issue. But, here's the thing...sibling issues arise no matter what. Bio, step, adopted - it doesn't matter. Having said that - it has been hard on our oldest son to deal with two sibs with attachment disorder and I'm thankful everyday that he retained his status as the oldest one. It helps when the oldest gets the privileges (although they aren't actually based on age, but on maturity adn decision making skills)!
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