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Hi Serieusement, my story is somewhat like yours. I was never adopted by my mother's husband. My mom died when I was nine, I was to young to get alot of information regarding my bdad. Long story short, I'm 44 years old and finally found him about a month ago. All these years he has never tried to find me or my twin brother, but he may not of even knew he was a dad. I wrote a letter and mailed it on May 20, 2009. Now the wait is very hard. My letter was short but to the point. I took words from the letter that is suggested on this board. I dont have it with me, this is my letter in so many words:
Dear XXXX,
I'm not sure how to start this letter. I am looking for (name of person). Let me establish who I am then I will know if I have the correct (name). I was born on (dob) in (city, state) I was given the name (your name) on my birth certificate my mothers name is listed as (birth mother) and my fathers name is listed as (birth father). My mother passed away when I was nine years old so I am unable to get further information from her.
To establish that I have the correct (name of person). The man I'm looking for married (birth mother name) on (date of marriage) in (place of marriage). On the marriage applicaton he was (age) from (place).
I can't remember what the sample letter said but went on to say how I didn't want anything from him. I don't want to disrupt his life. If he doesn't want a relationship with me that is fine, but I would like him to write to me either way so I know I've made contact.
Hope this helps
Karen
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