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Originally Posted by belleinblue1978
I'm one of those people that is a short timer and actually a lifer. It's so difficult and emotional sometimes and I don't know where I fit. I feel silenced as an adopted person sometimes and sometimes as a first mother. I feel like I can't win for losing.
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Belle, I think you got a double whammy in life...I know it's really difficult for you at times. Do you have any idea, though, how much you are valued here on the forums? You're one of my joys, kiddo -- I always look forward to reading what you have to say on the different threads.
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Originally Posted by belleinblue1978
I will say, when the going gets tough I think of those that have gone before me...
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I do the same thing, Belle. When I start feeling sorry for myself (which seems to be happening a lot lately), I think of the women who only two generations before me were thrown into state mental hospitals and insane asylums for the crime of becoming pregnant outside of wedlock. That is what happened to many women in the first half of the 1900's, especially if they were unwed teenagers. Their fathers could simply commit them to the asylums, no questions asked. Even if they didn't land up in the looney bin, the social workers deemed them "feeble minded"...in later years they were labeled "delinquent". If you ever want to be horrified, there are some old books and social-work journals available thru Google Books from that time period.