[In_limbo_for_now]

From what I read it seems there is self-doubt and a feeling being abandoned which both birthmom and adopted child have to deal with. Though it may be the best for both mother and child to make the adoption decision there is little support and sometimes very little understanding of how both parties feel. The child may feel abandon or wonder what was wrong with him/herself. But the mother it seems would feel the same doubts and maybe wish that things were different and that they did not leave the hospital with empty arms. birthmom may hope to share in the child life in some way. To feel left behind sucks!! To make the choice to be left behind doesn't always mean you are joyous about it.

You all are welcome to tell me I am way off base but this is how it seems to me, and I have thick skin and have been wrong before...