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I hope I'm not offending anyone by posting here. I'm an adoptive mom, one whose daughter was in foster care for several years. She has trouble sorting her way with her feelings for her birthmom at times. She often projects these feelings onto animals. She cares for all animals in need and wants to be a vet.
Anyway, she found a tiny baby kitten at the neighbor's Friday morning. The mother cat had left it there and it was too small to wean. It probably isn't even 2 weeks old. We are feeding in shifts now. It was touch and go for a while but I think it is going to make it.
She asked me why the mother cat would abandon it. I looked it up and read to her that sometimes she doesn't have enough milk, sometimes the babies are in danger, sometimes the mother cat has a psychological problem, and sometimes you never know the reason.
I'm not at all comparing you to cats. But I saw a lightbulb go off in her head when I read that. The mother who gave birth to my daughter is very real. No matter what we ever do together I can't say that I gave birth to her. I didn't. I tell my daughter that it is OK to love her and talk about her, think about her. THere are more issues in our case than a typical adoption but still, it is just how it is.
I'm sleep deprived so I will end here. I will probably come back after church and regret posting this!
Oh, PS. My daughter wrote a short story that MAY be published in a nationally known book soon. We were sent a contract so if it is, I will be screaming about it here. Of course, it is about her dog and how she learned to deal with her adoption through him. So what does that make me?
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