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I went to Chuckie Cheese once with my kids and even though they have the hand stamps, the lady got down on her knees and said, "Did you come with her?"
I was like, WTH?
I think the most hurtful thing in the beginning for me was having some family make comments and other family members not be as excited about the adoption. As soon as my children came home my family was in love but those comments in the beginning really hurt and stay with me. Instead of having a "happy" experience while preparing for a new baby, I had a lot of stress and hurt instead. I won't ever get that back.
Since I am a single CC parent to two black kids and to tell you the truth, most people think they are my bio kids. I think they assume that my boyfriend is black. Many people often tell me that my kids look so much like me. LOL!
Most people are nice but many people have questions. Kids will have questions for your kids as well. I think the hardest thing for me has been hearing about racist incidents or hearing racist remarks from people I know, whether they be coworkers or friends. Those comments are not usually about my children specifically, but about AA people and that just kills me. I have lost a few friends over it. I can't tollerate it at all.
I am totally happy with my decision to adopt my children but there will be challenges for both you and the kids as they get older. You just have to deal with them as they come.
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