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Originally Posted by Forever_family
This has absolutely NOTHING to do with the thread. I just am sad that it feels to me like people are being attacked for their opinions, and this is going in all directions but I'm speaking more specifically of Amanda....and I realize that this is a sensitive and tough topic and that she has some extremely opinionated ideas-based on HER adoption experience. I do not feel she is trying to blanket this towards all birth parents/adoptive parents and all situations. I feel she is trying to share her feelings.
I have struggled to find adoptees on this board who are willing to share experience on how their adoptive parents/birth parents played a role in their lives. I would hate for Amanda or any other adoptee to be driven away based on posting of their opinions. She stated clearly several times this is her adoption experience and that she realizes it doesn't apply to each situation.
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This is a thread on the Birth Parent Support Forum, started by a birth mother! Having said that, the forums here are not segregated and posts from other members of the triad are not only allowed, but welcomed. I sincerely doubt that Amanda will turn tail and leave simply because not everyone agreed with her. The Amanda that I have become acquainted with thru her heart-felt, articulate posts is strong. And I agree with you that it would be a loss if she quit posting.
However, we all have a right to state our beliefs from our differing perspectives. We have the right to point out our differences and if birth parents can’t state their differences of opinion on this forum, then where? I haven’t read a post on this thread that was disrespectful towards Amanda.
It seems to me the point of your post was to scold the birth parents here for making a point – I say that because you didn’t attempt to participate in the conversation in any meaningful way – why the need to bounce on, wag your finger at us and leave? I guess it sucks when a group of people refuse to remain silent and disenfranchised, doesn’t it?