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Originally Posted by OakShannon
But . . . My son's birthmom is very real. She is part of him and he a part of her. I think we have to have enough compassion to go around, because life can be ****ably hard sometimes. I know that "S's" life is harder than mine has ever been or is ever likely to be. And we are still human, still have value, even with our mistakes and struggles. My son was taken from his mother for good reasons. But the idea that this means she cannot be a "true" mother who grieves is sad to me. And I think she cannot be diminished without diminishing a part of my son as well. His story does not have a pretty beginning and I can't excuse everything his birthmother has done. And yet . . .
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OakShannon,
You have a wonderful soul, perhaps best described as a person with an 'old soul' if that is still used today. I agree with what you said but I was trying very hard to clarify that the abuse had been proven and obviously failed...and was trying in a very polite way to identify those parents who for whatever reasons horribly physically and mentally abuse their children because they think they have the right to do it because they are their children. I am not and was not talking about parents whose children are in the system who struggle to overcome addictions and are horrified that their life and their childrens lives have been hurt because of their addiction, but still cannot overcome the demons for whatever reason.
Hopefully that made sense.
Kind regards,
Dickons