[EZ2Luv]

I took care of my Momma for nearly 6 years when she got alzhiemers. I finally had no choice but to place her ina nursing home when I could no longer meet her need. Yes it was hard and definately a labor of love. I do not think I could care for anyone else except one of my paents. My Mom was combative and quite a handful early on and it was extremely challenging. My only other sibling is a younger brother and God bless him he was very helpful. I was the one with the flexibale work scheduale. My dad also was able to work until he was 78yrs old so I had most of the responibility during the day. Rightfully so as it is easier for a daughter to bathe and care for a Momma. I had 3 very small babies too. Thank God my MIL was able to step up to the plate and take care of them. Would I do it again? In a heart beat. I still visit Momma daily and feed her dinner. She requies 24 hour total care. If not she would still be home. My father is 86 and lives alone. I am also his carediver but thankfully he has no major problems except for being somewhat of a slob when it comes to the house because my Momma or myself when Momma got sick would do all the cooking and cleaning.

Early in my Momma's illness she did attend an adult day care and loved it. I had small children and needed to balance my time with them
As Momma's needs increased, my Dad stopped working to care for her at home because she could not be alone at all.

ETA~ i had no outside help at all. The only agency that I took advantage of was teh adult day care. My father refused any kind of help from outside sources and I agreed with him. People told me that I could have got paid for caring for Momma, but I could never accept a penny for caring for the woman who would have given her life and her last breath for me.