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thank you, everyone, for sharing your stories. i am ready to do this but now would like to know exactly how do you start this note (on facebook or email, etc.)? i'd like to know a general outline of how you explain this situation without giving away too much info but yet giving away enough that convinces the b-sib you are not crazy.
every time i start this note it ends up being way too long. my approach has been to ask if the father is named X and went to X high school in X, CA. i also have a pic of him so i could also scan it and send it. then my note goes into who i am - basic information about me and being adopted and what information i know that has led me to this note. then i state what i want - which is to get to know my b-dad and family but with some clear boundaries as i am not looking to join a new family or do anything that makes anyone uncomfortable.
any thoughts on this outline or please suggest your own outlines and roughly how long the note should be.
thanks,
nica
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