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I'm glad you told your daughters. It is something that you've had to make the decision that's right for you and your girls. What a tough one.
I've been thinking about this a bit. My sister in law is in the hospital, they think it's something to do with her pancreas, and/or diabetes. I guess it's been rough. My mom made a point of saying how my niece doesn't really know what's going on. OK she's 10. But still, I don't get or like this big secrecy thing. Obviously she knows SOMETHING is going on. Grrr
And then back to the co-dependancy thing. I wish I could be there to support my SIL. She's GREAT and I love her to bits BUT my dad would be ripping me to shreds right now.
Which brings me back to your quote. I've come to realise that I can't change him. I am starting to understand at least a bit as to what triggers him to attack me, but I'm still struggling with how to deal with it. It brings me down and I don't know how to not let it.
I can't confront him, he just becomes more agressive. Just beats down my already bruised self esteem. *sigh*
Anyway, love to you Janey and your family. Why does life have to be so HARD sometimes?
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