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Originally Posted by adoptmom2be
We received our approved homestudy today, we are planning to adopt from state foster care. I have no idea how long or short that wait will be. The part of me that isn't being so strong in my faith says to "wait and see how this goes before getting everything ready" the part of me that is trying to have faith is saying "you need to use this time to prepare" Has anyone else dealt with this struggle? I picked up my first ever "mom" book today called "The Power of a Positive Mom" - its a Christian book. This was a huge step for me as I have always shied away from anything like this as it just was too hard. Anyways - sorry to ramble, just curious how some of you handled the wait. Thanks!  |
You mean besides constantly wanting to call my SW and tell her I was ready for a baby. I had to let go, let God. I constantly reminded myself that He loved me more than I loved myself, more than I loved the future son or daughter He would bring into my life, and that everything would happen in HIs perfect time. This actually did bring me peace. I had read all the adoption books I could. I had read all the children's book regarding adoptions that I could put my hands on. So other than throwing myself, with the help of a friend, a baby shower I did nothing.
As for waiting time....that depends on the number of children in the foster care system in your county, what you're open to in regards to race, sex, sibling sets, and age.
I was open to boy or girl of any race under the age of one, who had minimum drug exposure. My son came home at five-days-old one day shy of me being licensed for 2 months. Funny, I got the call for him as I was carrying all the baby stuff out to the garage. Yep, I happily had to haul all of his baby stuff back inside the house. And 19 months and 2 days later, our "easy" adoption was finalized.
I know it isn't to let go, let God, but it's the only way I"ve learned to deal with this rollercoaster called fost/adopt. If you think this waiting is hard, it's nothing like the waiting and wanting to finalize once your little one or little ones are in your home, in your heart.
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. - Jeremiah 29:11 became my mantra. Fost/adopt is such a strange world. You don't wish or pray for anyone to do bad, yet you do know that if the parents can't get their act together this precious child/ren will become yours forever.
Whenever I was blessed with a child, the first prayer I prayed was that God's will be done in their life and quoted Jeremiah 29:11. God had plans for me and for the babies I was entrusted with and they were plans for us all to prosper. He was always true to His word.