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I understand where you are coming from in wanting to help in some way. I have not yet had any contact with my birth mother but when I do I am sure that I would be hard pressed to not lend some assistance in some way. I am not rich by any means but my needs are few and what good does a lot of money do me in the long run. It's better to use it to make the lives of others better.
with that said, you are on the right track for watching out for yourself. My wife has cousins that have stolen from their own mother and take advantage of her at every turn. It is pathetic to see. I think that people with addiction are well versed into how to twist others into helping them support their addiction. I'd never give cash but only physical gifts like a small microwave for example. If it ended up missing or an excuse like it was stolen then in all likelihood it was sold to obtain drugs or alcohol.
Like Shea said, write a letter. See how she responds.
And as I am sure you already know. You can't make someone with an addiction change, you can only help them when they need it. I only add that since there seems to be a possible substance abuse problem.
Best wishes.
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