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We have a 15 year old bio daughter and are adopting our 14 year old foster daughter. We love them both equally. Our 14 year old is so sweet you can't help but love her.
It takes some time to bond but we found that treating them equally makes it easier on them both. Our girls have the same chores, allowance and rules. They are eleven months apart so they do alot of the same things.
We found that by treating (C) with love, respect and understanding she has opened up to us and made it easy to love her. She shares her life stories with us and we share ours with her.
The most important thing to remember is they have experienced things that our bio children have not and we need to be more understanding.
As long as both the girls are doing their best we are happy. (C) had been improving in school since she came to live with us. She is making A's and B's. We are so proud of her.
We kept our birth daughter as the oldest and it has worked well. We feel it is important to keep the birth order. These children have been through so much they will need extra attention. Hope this helps.
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