[MilehighDad]

Joskids,
I have to agree about cases just sitting around being nothing but bad. It seems like a lot of the time that happens because the workers just have too many cases to handle.

In our daughter's case, she was actually TPR'd very quickly (18 months) and the foster parents she was first placed with wanted to adopt her. But then they never finalized for the next three years. Her behavior steadily declined until eventually they disrupted because she was basically out of control. They had lots of people trying to help, at least 4 psychiatrists, 3 therapists, school counselors, and her caseworkers. All reports of the parents were that they were doing everything they should and they were a wonderful support for her. But, yet they failed. After she left there, she has made steady progress and is doing ever so much better today.

It reads like many stories on this board where the parents desperately wanted to help her and just couldn't figure out how. And it still seems obvious to me and yet I get in heated arguments with other experienced parents on this board all the time.

The good part is that I can now tell her why she was taken from her birth mom, and I know beyond any doubt that her birth mom was not capable of taking care of her. Oh, and I did fly most of the way, but it was still a 3 hour drive from the airport.