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Hi there, and congratulations on your pregnancy!
I'm not a birthmom, and I can't tell you whether to raise the baby or place him or her for adoption. But I am worried about your situation. It sounds like your economic situation is pretty precarious, and the birthdad has some significant emotional issues that are affecting you and your pregnancy.
Can I make a suggestion? It sounds like you need some help to make it through the pregnancy, no matter what you decide. You're doing a GREAT job, no doubt about it. It is not easy starting from scratch in this economy, and you've already got a secure job and health insurance and a place to live, which is just incredible. But there is a lot of help out there which could make things easier for you, and help ensure your baby's health.
If you contact your local county Department of Social Services, you will probably qualify for some free prenatal care, which will keep you and the baby safer. Lots of counties can also offer you well baby visits and pregnancy advice and parenting assistance through the Nurse/Family Partnership program. The baby will probably qualify either for Medicaid or SCHIP, which will give him or her free medical insurance, including well baby visits and vaccinations. And Social Services can advise you if you qualify for rent assistance, food stamps, WIC (free groceries and formula!), and even counseling for you and the baby's dad. If you have some mental health issues, you might also qualify for therapy and medication, if you need it.
It's one heck of a tough economy out there, and you and the baby should get all the help you qualify for. You both deserve a safe, healthy, and worry-free pregnancy! Will you consider reaching out to Social Services to see what help they can offer you?
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