[MilehighDad]

Crick,
I think your response was beautifully stated, and I agree that some soul-searching is right and proper before making any life decisions like adopting.

And, I don't know about the maternal-brain-chemical thing, but I do know that I attached fully and completely to our newest daughter a year before we met her. I had to fight and argue and file complaints and call every week and just keep going before we were ever even matched with her. I fought for her as hard as I would fight for any of our kids, and after she moved in we had more fights with the school district and ICPC. Why did I attach that way - honestly I have no idea, but I just knew that it was right. And, to me that attachment has another name, I loved her unconditionally before meeting her. So, it doesn't work that way for everyone, but it is definitely possible.