I highly recommend the book How to Behave So Your Preschooler Will Too. I'm reading it right now, and it is really great at pointing out practical solutions to behavioral problems.
This is what has worked for us:
Write down the routine, from start to finish. Include pictures so she can see what the items are. For example:
1. Bath
2. Brush teeth
3. Get into pjs.
and ends with
x. Tuck in.
y. Stay in bed until the sun comes up.
If she accomplishes the routine, she gets a sticker. For every X number of stickers, she gets a surprise. For our son, we counted the number of stickers in a month and gave him a small toy.
Good luck!
