[mdesi]

Again, at the risk of taking flaming arrows, I don't think you are ready to adopt. That is not to say that you will not be, but biology seems to be very important to you in your explanation of your love and bond for your children. I know that you will think I am pretending when I say that I have that same mother bear instinct for my niece and nephew and step son, and even for my DH as you have for your biological children. (Just ask the guy at the park who found fault with my darling niece, and you will know that is true, or the fact that I once dove into icy water w/o even thinking to save her from drowning when everyone else just stood there.) I know the answer for me is "Yes, I can/will love my child who joins my life path through adoption as much as I could any child of my womb." If you are not there yet, it is not the time to adopt. There is nothing wrong with not being there. Adoption is most certainly not for everyone. I read once that only 25% of the people who look into adoption go onto adopt a child. I sincerely believe that it is in your heart and your consciousness that you can love a child not related to you or it isn't. Again, there is nothing wrong with you if it is not in your heart.

Mile High, I will agree to disagree with you. I don't think it is a good idea to adopt with the primary purpose of saving the world. As for the other stuff, I stand by it. That is how the posts came across to me, which is why how we use our words is so important.

Luna Sea, Thank you for taking the time to learn more about adoption.