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I am no expert but I am of the opinion that a 2 page introduction letter is too much. It is too much drama up front to break the ice. Keep it short and sweet and avoid mentioning anything like "I understand your decision not to parent". Also put in a postcard with the usual check boxes (I need time, I am not interested, Let's talk, etc...)
Then give it time. It is a process that cannot be rushed no matter how either side wants it to go.
Although he may be your biological father, you will still a stranger to him and his family and even though you want a relationship with all of the family, it all starts with you and him. To sound cliche, he is the nut that needs to be cracked first.
You only get the one chance to make a first impression. Best wishes.
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