[katy41]

permanently fostering 3, 2 with behaviour problems which need special school,12 yr old has tier 3 involvment with camhs but 8 yr old is much more dificult,currently doing a healing the hurt child course and meant to be learning theraputic parenting,but am finding it really hard going as ive been a parent for 20 yrs and find i react instinctively to challenging behaviour.when ive used it ,i can see it works,but most of the time ive already reacted as i would to my birth children and its too late.concerned that i'm being inconsistant.
also,the children have been with me for 4+ yrs and last month for my birthday, my 15yr old tried 5 x to get them to make me a card or draw me a picture but they just wanted to play on thier ds's.when they are doing what they want and getting the attention they crave,they are the nicest children you could meet,but will they ever be able to put someone else 1st?