[Janeytwo]

Dear Sooner,

Hi. The question that jumped out at me after reading your follow-up post was this....

If it were me, I would ask myself what's more important......A chance to hold and love my child before I relinquish or offending someone who is a supposed friend?

((( Sooner ))) Kiddo...you've got enought to deal with. These people are harrassing you, IMO. They're waaayyy out of line.

Look, (and no hostility meant at all - honest).....straight up no bull........adoption is the hardest thing you will ever do. I'm not saying it's wrong, I'm simply saying that you'll never do anything harder. You are going to have to trust all of us posting here on this one because we've lived it from all sides.

I for one can't imagine spending my life not only learning to accept the decisions I needed to make but also having to swallow the bitter pill of knowing that I gave up my sacred right to hold my child in order to keep peace with someone who was not at all what I thought they were.


Get an advocate and seriously consider finding another couple, my opinion only. Things are not going to improve with these people and, if this is the way they are treating you, one can't help but start to see why others might've changed their minds about choosing these people as parents.

((((Sooner)))) - I've seen what makes up kind, honorable and self-assured aparents. They are the aparents posting in here to you.

They are the mark, Sooner. The kind of folk I hope my children were raised by. I would PM them privately if you're having doubts. I am certain they can reassure you and show you through their actions and kindess what it is you're looking for in an adoptive couple if you are still planning to relinquish.

Keep posting sweetie.