[browneyes0707]

If she's that close a friend to you, she should not be thinking you are "causing trouble." Close friends don't feel that way about one another when it comes to emotional issues. They support and understand, not demand. If you ask me, she's being the selfish one. You are right when you say that she has a lifetime with the child, she should not be upset over a few days. Her insecurites are for her to deal with, not for you to tiptoe around.

I too wonder a lot about this match. Remember, you are bonded to your child AND HER FAMILY for life.(if in fact you are having an OA) If she's already trying to push her needs and insecurities on you before birth, it's probably not going to get better after TPR and this relationship is not going to survive, and I feel as if you are going to end up with your heart in pieces. Maybe I'm reading it wrong, but I am really leery of someone who would behave in such a self centered way. This is about the child, and how could a child not benefit from alone time with it's mother? And to allow you the time YOU need to make the right decision and be certain and confident in it.

You hold your ground and follow your heart and do what YOU feel comfortable with. If she can't handle that, she isn't the right mother for your child, and believe me, there is the right situation out there for you.