[EZ2Luv]

Am I ever glad that I wasn't the only one seeing all kinds of red flags waving here. I wanted to say so much more but had a situation in my family that required immediate attention.

Everyone else has said what I was meaning to say though.

I just want to add that I don't care how close of a friend this may or may not be. Nothing and no power on earth should keep you from holding and loving on YOUR baby. By all means take your baby to breast if you are so inclined. I am not a bmom, but when my babies were born the minute they were placed in my arms was the most magical time. Honestly, as much I love dh, he didn't mattter, it was just me and baby and the earth stood still.

I am an adoptee from the closed era who was blessed with the greatest aparents in the world. I never had a desire to search, but when I did finally find out who bmom was and heard that she chose not to hold me or see me, it hurt. That was the most hurt that ever experience in my adoption. Especially after holding my own babies, I could not phathom a mother refusing to do the most natural thing in the world.

I am so happy you decided to bring your daughter home. Please rethink this adoption plan with these people. If you decide to parent , this is not a bad thing at all. It just means that this was not meant to be their baby..

EZ