[bromanchik]

First, ditto to what everyone here has said. You are not being selfish. Your baby needs to be with you as much as you need time with her. Separation of Mother and Baby can be traumatizing for both... it is best to do it as slowly as possible. Take your baby home if you want to. Both of you will never regret it. It is a precious time that need not be given away or shared.


I see a lot of red flags with this a-mom too. Have you discussed post-placement contact? She sounds possessive of your daughternow, I wonder how she will be once she is legally theirs. You are not under any obligation to place with them if you are also seeing red flags.