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I placed a son for adoption in 1991 and I adopted a son in 2008. As a birthmom and adoptive mom I have red flags going off over this woman telling you that you should not see or hold your daughter until the next day. When I placed my son, the doctor and nurses would not let me see my baby because they said it would make it too hard for me to do the right thing. I was a teenager and didn't know any better. It haunts me to this day. When I adopted my son, the social worker and nurses told me his birthmom did not want to see him or hold him. I didn't know if she had been given the same bad advice as me or that was just her way of dealing with things. I had the hospital social worker, the agency social worker and the lawyer all talk to her and try to convince her to spend time with her son before she signed TPR. I offered to have the agency social worker take the baby to the birthmom after he was released so she could see him on her own turf. I worked really hard to make sure she had every opportunity to have time with him. She refused all my offers. This prospective adoptive mom wo is trying to dictate to you when you can see your baby is freaking me out. You should spend as much time with your child as you choose. Feed her, bathe her, breast feed her, whatever you want to do. She is your child until you sign the TPR. Don't let any nurse or any hopeful adoptive mom push you around. Please think long and hard if this is the woman you want raising your daughter. I wish you the best of luck on this difficult journey.
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