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Old 04-27-2009, 10:03 AM
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I say ignore the gossip worry. Those who gossip will gossip anyway, and those who know you, it won't matter to.

I would tell her the truth. On facebook. Nothing to be ashamed of. I would say I have "just the 2 kids". No one who doesn't know you well from your hometown will know enough to say "wait a minute" she only raises one....hmmmm. And the rest will know already. The ones who care about you, but don't know yet, will understand and the ones who don't understand, aren't worth caring about their opinions.

It's very likely no one will even notice. It is probably way more of a big deal to you, than anyone else. Besides, it's such an bland question to ask. She is likely digging for info on M. wondering how it all turned out, but too chicken to ask outright. So she has cornered you. Maybe just reply with "it's a long story, I'll tell you all about it some other time." or you can reply with "I've actually had a son since the last time you saw me/we talked...he's XYZ and XXX years old." and go on to tell about what she wouldn't know about your son. Then maybe send M a private message explaining you didn't want to discuss her on facebook with someone you barely know. You wanted to protect her privacy.
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