[Janeytwo]

Dear Mizz_Momma,

Hi. My name's Janey. Welcome to the forum.

I wanted to ask before I say anything, you had mentioned the father of your unborn baby was vandalizing your house. So my first thought is for your safety. Are you and your girls okay? Do you have any kind of support network that can help you with this man's irrational behavior -get it to stop?

I would echo what's been said here about not feeling pressured. I understand what you're saying about feeling that you have to make a decision now....but there is still time. Even after giving birth, even if you decide to bring your baby home, even then you can still opt to relinquish if you feel everything becomes too overwhelming.

But you don't have to rush into a decision right now. Give yourself some time. You've got enough going on right now. I know you want to make a decision and be at peace with it.

I would say to you that I made the decision to relinquish in the harsh light of reality..

Yes, I wanted to be a parent.

But I knew that that was not enough. There were things my children needed and in the situation I was in, I could not provide those things. I'm talking about basic necessities like housing, food, etc.

My situation however was extremely dire. Yours may not be near that.

I would say to take some time to step back and access the situation; see where you really stand as opposed to how you think you stand (if that makes sense).

Also, the suggestion to talk to a counselor is an excellent one.

((( Mizz_Momma ))) Hugs to you. Keep posting and remember that situations change. Give yourself some time and please.....if you and your girls are being threatened in any way......take care of you guys, okay? Don't let that guy bully or hurt you.

Much regards,