[ladyjubilee]

Ok, well, first we had a scare last week and little guy ended up in the hospital. Seizures--eek.

But here's the thing....When the social workers initially called about placing little guy I was willing, but I was clear I didn't think I'd be the best placement since I'm a single mom. I just think boys need a man's guidance. But one of the social workers was just blunt and said, "There are no perfect placements out there for little guys because people are afraid of the big A, so little guys end up in group homes or other institutions." (In our case, it was literally me or nothing......and Little Guy is a FANTASTIC kid. He's gained little from me but I've gotten alot!!)

Added to that, I've heard people with Autistic kids and even read in books that "Autism is the worse thing that can happen to a child."

Then I notice that there is so little participation when it comes to boards on Autism and adoption or fostering. Pffft, I haven't even found a book yet that discussess anything other than "early intervention"---I wasn't part of the early so I can't provide early intervention! I would have thought that other folks would be in the same boat.

Soooo, I guess I'm posting for three reasons. One, Autism really isn't that big a deal. Its not the worst---there are ALL KINDS of worsts out there. People who won't consider a child because child is autistic are just plain missing out.

Does anyone have any resources for non-early intervention?

Finally, I'm trying to be supportive of reunification. Sometimes I can be positive and just think, hey, not everyone knows how parent a child with needs.....but then, I get so mad. I had more understanding and compassion for one of the birth families of another child--and they were physically/sexually abusive! I just, urgh, I just can't get to the point that I can understand not getting any FREE services for a child--doing NOTHING. How did you reach that point?