ANIL(SEEKING TO ADOPT), I have responded to another of your post, where you asked a question, and so I answered honestly. I am going to take a " leap and guess you are of an international family, and you may not be so "'in- tune" with ''our ways", and or beleifs". It seems to me, that what you are saying, is NOT meant to be for ALL women, but more so, you are seeing and speaking of you own pains and history. I will let you in on how I dealt with some of what you, also lived! First, off, I was told daily horrific , hateful, and down right mean, things...what we call mental and emtional abuse! However, in growing up and having my own child, I have NEVER REPEATED my history I had with my mother... with my son...NEVER. So in saying this to you, my intent is to show you, that what you live and survive, does NOT have to be repeated! I was also physically abused, most days spent hiding from my mom, until my father returned home, or when I had assigned chores did those and hid ......but NEVER 1 single time did I abuse my son. We are Blessed in our lives...all of us...to have CHOICE, and FREEDOM. A mother CAN, AND DOES raise children without the father...and does so quite successfully. SOME are raped, still decide to parent, and raise and love that child, as only a Mother can...doing this WITHOUT ever "SEEING" that rapist/fathers similarities in that child. So it can and is done. The OP is so torn, on the IDEA of 'THE MAN OF HER DREAMS", or keeping a child, and parenting...with this latter choice, the MAN OF HER DREAMS...will leave! So I hope this has helped you somewhat, in how most of "US" think , feel, and deal with some of these issues , here in in U.S. Blessings, keep coming to post,just try a little harder to see a bigger picture of the issues...BLESSINGS...C.J.
