Kaylee, I am not a birthmother but hopefully can answer some of your questions.
Kaylee, I can see where once again, you are getting some great advice. Not a surprise, we have some great gals, here on the forum. Raven is 100% dead on, a great piece of advice is Brenda, I have heard and read so many great things of all the support and help , she has offered many. Now , I will, again have to clarify, one simple thing...but has huge impact on OUR children. In my post reply, I made comments, of MY own opinion, that the 'new parents', may look good on paper, but they also have the same ISSUES THE REST OF THE POPULATION face! RD2OO, stated I suggested, that I inferred they were pediphiles. As a person whom has adopted, or is in the process of doing so...(not a firstmom), her own words....said I suggested this. If she were to go back and read, my statement clearly states, that these issues, ALL, I mentioned, are indeed a fact of life, sadly pediphiles do exist in our world. I would pray to GOD that it is rare and few and far in between. However, sexual abusers/pediphiles do exist, and unfortunately they are our neighbors, our friends, the ceo's of companys, politicians, and even soccer coaches...lastly some are even our clergys/priests. People wishing to adopt are not exempt from this, and when it comes to "our" innocent children, it is definately something one has to weigh! I meant no disrespect to ANY person whom has love and GOD in their heart, so RD200, is trying to defend this very real fact...prospective parents can and do look good on paper, behind closed doors, is a roll of the dice...one I personally believe is of utmost consideration, when relinquishing a child. Abuse of any aspect is very very REAL! Now my having to clarify is done, and I will end this explanation. My meaning behind my post reply...is I AM A FIRSTMOM, and I stand by REALITY, no one person KNOWS for sure, when we place our babies, with what is indeed virtually strangers. Now, back to your post, please take these fine ladies advice...no time limit is placed on your decision, enjoy "lil monkey' today , tomorrow, and when you decide...YOU will know. Blessings...C.J.
