[MamaS]

Kayley: I am an adoptive mother, so I cannot address any of your concerns about adoption. The birthmothers have spoken about that.

However, I am also a single mother, so I do understand that money IS important, a job IS important, education IS important, and not having those can make it hard/impossible to be a parent. When I adopted I had completed graduate school, totally paid for a house and car and had a job with a contract and really good insurance. I thought I was ready. The child I adopted had severe health problems (unknown at the time of adoption) and within two years I had used up all my job leave and a good portion of savings on hospitalizations and non-covered medical bills. That's life. It is unpredictable. And if I had known what would happen, I still would have adopted her! She was meant to be mine!

It is very normal to be tired, confused and irritated with the baby after only 10 days. Unless he is miraculously sleeping thru the night, you are sleep-deprived and hormonal. Can you make an appointment with your ob-gyn and talk about yourself? Whatever you decide, you need to be thinking clearly when you make the decision.