[Kris.lan]

Hi,
I am a 21 year old college student who has tried to contact my birth mother through my adoption agency several times, however due to a disconnect in the contact with the adoption agency this has been a very difficult process. Four years ago, my agent tried to make contact with my birth mother and she at the time was not ready for a reunion. Now after four years I have asked for the agency to help me try to make contact again however they have not be helpful and have stopped responding to my emails and phone calls. I am graduating college this semester and want my birth mother to know this even if she does not want to make contact. I have also written a letter to her which the agency never forwarded onto her.

I recently searched for her on the internet and found her information (address and phone number). The address I have found may not be accurate according to the website on which I located them. I want to send her my letter and a graduation announcement however I am afraid that these addresses are incorrect or that the wrong person may open them.

My dilemma is wether I should call her to tell her I want to send something to her and request a recent address or just hope for the best and mail it to her. Does anyone have any input as to what I should do. As I have never been in her situation, nor do I know anyone in her position I have no idea which would be easier for her to accept. Please please please some on help me out with some advice. This is an issue that I have struggled with for the last four years and I truly want to either meet her, even if it is only once, or send her my letter just so she knows what my life has been like.

Thank you to anyone with some advice!
Kris