[lucyjoy]

I had a child in my home that long, felt this guilt commitment to continue without any connection, did so for 9 years of hell and regret every minute of it.

I do see how one can have a child this long, want to do what they feel they "should" but know that it's not a good connection or a good fit. To me, this is the time to stop and let the child go to a family he is more suited to.

If I could do it all over, that one child would not have stayed with us. I don't know if he'd have been better off or not but I know the rest of my family would have been.