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I understand what you are saying Lucy. I guess I can't understand how someone could have a child in their home for that long and feel no commitment to them. Love is an action, not a feeling. I have different feelings for all my children. Some are warm and fuzzy, some are simply taking care of their needs. I think people get too caught up in the snuggliness of love. Love is hard work. Love takes 100% commitment. Love creats a lot of pain. Many of us have children that are hard to love, but we are commited to giving them the best life that we can. To me, that is love.
I guess I agree in that if she feels that she can't commit to this child, he deserves someone that can. But I think thats part of the problem of our society. People want the good feelings without the hard work. Sometimes the good feelings don't come, but you keep up the hard work anyway. To me, that tells alot about a person. JMO.
Now - if the child has issues beyond what you can handle - violence, medical needs, whatever, then I agree, don't commit. You must jump in with both feet and keep going.
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