[lucyjoy]

I fail to understand the need to push the OP into keeping this child no matter what. If this is not a good match for the parents or the child, no amount of commitment will make this placement work. It is better to back out now, in my opinion, then to do it two years and tons of resentment later.

I do agree that at some point, before finalizing, a parent does have to make the commitment to parent no matter what it takes. But if a parent does this out of guilt or obligation, it won't ever work.

I would NOT want to be a child raised in a home with people who weren't sure they could ever love me. What a sad thought. And a parent cannot force themselves to love a child they feel no connection to.