[kimber1999]

We have 5 children 3 by birth and 2 by adoption. Our first adoption was through foster care, and our last was private.

Our last adoption is where the FM(FM is not young) relationship is in question. Our son is 15 months now, and for the first ten months of his life, we saw her once a month and sometimes twice a month. Our agency felt it would be easier for her to move on if she saw him more often at first. We do have a covenant written that states that visits will occur once every three months. So back in November, we informed the FM that we were now going to stick to the covenant. Reason being that the visit were always innappropriate and I was getting warn out(I didn't tell her that though).

Well this is when things started getting scary. In January(just two months of not seeing him) she showed up at our church stalking us, I informed our agency, and they had a talk with her. One week later at 2:am(notice the a.m. part), we get a knock at our door, it is a Sherrif, long story short she falsly reported us to the police with oodles of lies. This caused us to be very cautioned. So we wait 3 months.

Last week I get an e-mail from our 3rd party, letting me know that FM is asking for a visit, so I agreed to it. The first one I made, she was extremely late to and I had to go, so I rescheduled two days later. What a mess, she was extremely dirty, dressed innapropriate, and she brought her pit bull mix, which she has been told many times not to bring to the visits.

At the end of the visit she brought up her 911 call, she said that her motives were to get him taken away us so that she could have him back, since we don't let her see him very often. But we have a covenant we agreed to. Months ago we sat down and mapped out firm boundaries, which she has heeded to none of them.

We are now at the point of taking a very long break, but now we fear of major retaliation and rightfully so.

Help!!! I could really us some wisdom right now.

Kimber1999