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The only reason to place a child for adoption (IMHO) is if you Sincerely, Truly and Honestly, DO NOT WISH TO BE A PARENT. Not that you're afraid to, but that you don't WISH IT.
Bmoms I know IRL who have felt this way when they placed, have had little grief over their choice.
If you have the desire to parent, there is a way to make it possible. Sure it'll be hard. Parenting is always hard at some point.
Don't base your decision (either way) from FEAR. Take a look at what you really want and then ask for help to make it happen that way.
And there's no expiration on making an adoption plan. My dd's first mom was able to parent her until she was 3 1/2 yrs old. Then she simply couldn't do it anymore. (She has pretty bad emotional issues)
My dd gets that time and those memories with her bmom, bmom gets the same and gets to back away when it was too much, I get a wonderful daughter and a loving relationship with her bmom.
I really believe our situation has been WIN/WIN/WIN. Sure there's some loss on all sides as well, but overall we all got what we needed most.
I am probably one of the only aparents out there who has such a limited approval of adoption....but I think that's the only really stable reason for placing a child for adoption.
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