[Hunter_Mom]

My husband and I will be on vacation very close to where our birthmom lives next month. (My dad changed his timeshare at the last minute without telling me first!) We have a semi-open adoption with her (emails, pictures, last names) and genuinely like her. We visited with her a few times the week he was born. I'm just not sure about a visit yet. Our son is a toddler so won't really remember, so this is for the adults. Emotionally, I waiver between extreme possisiveness of my son and then I feel like a terrible person because I know how much is birthmom loves him. I know I won't enjoy my vacation and feel like a real jerk if I am close by without telling her but something is still holding me back. I think it is fear...

Any advice please??