[lucyjoy]

Of course her behavior is coming from her past. That does not mean it's easy to live with. Healing is a long, long process and yes, she needs a strong, committed parent who gets that with her past moves it will take at least 3-6 years for her to start truely healing. She won't believe anyone will keep her until they've experienced her worst behaviors and kept her longer then she's been in care.

I just think it's important not to minimize the "tantrums". Not because I think the child is horrible for throwing them but because unprepared, there is a potential for great danger to the parent or the child. And if a cop misunderstands when called to deal with you holding a screaming child in a parking lot, that child may spend a night away from home in emergency foster care setting her healing back and causing a nightmare for the parent.

If she will be an only child and the parents get this, then I do think the adoption is workable. But with a child with this background, the more prepared for what might happen a parent is, the less the liklihood of disruption or worse-someone's injury or death.