[joskids]

OK, you can all kick me for saying this . . . but having a baby in your room means you have no personal time for you and your husband to feel like a couple again. For me, that would certainly add to the stress of a new child in the home. Is there any way you might transition her to her own room so that, at the very least, your lives could feel somewhat "normal" again? I've never adopted internationally, but we did adopt a 2 year old. Fortunately, she slept like a log in her own room immediately, but she did share her room with our 3 year old son and bonded to him very quickly. I will tell you, though, that it did take me longer to bond to her than to the 3 children that entered our home as infants. Our daughter is 10 now and has blossomed into a beautiful and affectionate child that we love dearly. Don't beat yourselves up. Is it possible to get into an adoptive parent group so that you and vent a bit to folks who understand completely what you are feeling (or not feeling)??